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All posts in November, 2014

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How are gratitude and happiness related? Happiness itself can seem like a tricky thing to define, let alone experience. However, I do believe that we can choose to live in a happiness state of being. And the secret to that starts with gratitude. Let’s break it down.

Express Gratitude
When we express gratitude, it can take many forms.  Maybe we’ll give a gift to someone who’s helped us or someone we care about.  Perhaps we volunteer time or donate possessions to charitable causes.  Some of us will help someone in a personal way, maybe even a stranger, with no expectations of anything in return. No matter what it is, when we express gratitude, we feel uplifted.

Practice Kindness
To practice kindness is to show our best selves to those who may not be at their own best. Yes, when others are low or vulnerable, a kind word or gesture may give them hope to carry on. Kindness needs to be practiced, and often.  When we are kind to others, we see more kindness in the world around us. 

The more we live by example, the more likely others will follow suit. But we cannot stop with just a handful of kind actions.  We must practice kindness every day, in as many ways a we can. It contributes to positive energy out in the world,  and comes back to us many times over.  Any act of kindness you choose to perform is worth it, even if it’s only a kind word.

Spread Cheer
Ever notice how a simple smile can start a chain reaction of smiles in others? Or how a fit of giggles inspire more giggles  – even if we don’t understand what inspired the originator? Spreading cheer is easily supported by kindness and smiles.  It takes but a small moment to spread cheer, and cheer is good for any time of year (hint: don’t save up all your cheer the the holiday season).

Savor Joy
If you’ve started your day with gratitude, practiced kindness, and spread cheer, you have opened your heart to beautiful and universal delights of joy. When we recognize a joy filled moment, it is best to savor it.  Taking a mental record of the sights, scents, and beings in our presence that contribute to the joy of a moment can reate a beautiful memory that can be recalled at a later time. 

When we understand joy, we experience a state of being based in happiness. Choosing happiness as our preferred state of being crates a cycle of positivity. So begin with gratitude, and end with joy.  This is one way we choose to be happy.

At the end of the day, we are simple humans, doing our best to navigate our mortal experience. When things go wrong for us, or circumstances out of our control bring about difficulty and strife, it can be incredibly hard to find that attitude of gratitude. On days when we find gratitude more difficult to achieve, memories we’ve recorded of joy filled moments can be just the remedy to turn our attention back to where we want to be. 

To express even simple appreciation for those joy filled moments is an expression of gratitude that can begin the cycle again and again. How will you let gratitude being you to happiness this week, and every day?

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So often in life we keep things to ourselves that we later wish we hadn’t. Gratitude is no exception.

For some of us, this is no problem, as we find we express most things without much difficulty.  But many of us find it very difficult to say things like “I love you”, “Please forgive me”, and “I’m sorry”.

What happens when we feel gratitude but keep it to ourselves? And what are we afraid of? Maybe it’s a case of feeling embarrassed, unworthy, or a burden. Or perhaps we were given help when we’d refused the initial offer for it when truly needed, and were given the assistance anyway. Pride and stubbornness can make navigation of these situations tricky.

Whatever the reason, when we feel gratitude, but don’t express it, it is the same thing as wrapping a gift or writing a letter that we never intend to give.  It is wasted if kept to ourselves,  and a lost opportunity for both parties to feel good about the situation.

How hard is it to express gratitude? That depends entirely on our ability to put down down our ego, admit to vulnerability, and acknowledge the divine in others.  If we are unable to do so with those who serve us, we can and should express it by paying it forward and serving sometime else.

Thank you for reading! Have a beautiful day!

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Leading up to thanksgiving, I was looking over what sorts of things we can write about being thankful.  What I discovered is that the magic word isn’t “thankful”, it’s “grateful”, which means the difference in gratitude is understanding that what you have is enough.

“Thanks” is something we say almost as an afterthought.  Some of us say grace before a meal, some of us say thank you after a transaction, and other times that lack passion and real feeling, because “thanks” is more of a polite habit than anything else in modern languages.  It indicates that you have what you need and you move quickly on.

The difference in the concept of “gratitude”, in my mind, is that one of the requirements of practicing gratitude is pause for consideration for what you’ve done, have, and received. To be thankful is to acknowledge that you’ve got an immediate need accomplished.  To be grateful is to acknowledge that you’ve thought long and hard about all that makes your life possible, and see the reality that on going needs are being met, then demonstrating it by helping others when you can.  What you have right now is enough. 

With so much talk about the massive exodus to shopping malls and outlet stores, and retailers everywhere happening just a week from now,  why not sit down and ask yourself, “Do I really need a new top that badly?  Is my coffee maker really just fine?  Do we really need another TV/special toy/appliance/nick-nack item?”

How can we truly express our gratitude when we are always looking for the next thing, waiting for that next paycheck, or otherwise constantly worrying about the future?  Gratitude is being good with the present and appreciating the past that brought us there.

Please, do me a favor. Take just 5 minutes every day to reflect on all of the different ways that you are blessed. Really look up close and feel the awesome weight of those blessings. Then, if you have any chances to help others, do it. Because helping others is an expression of gratitude.  Not because you pity, but because you know how they feel. And when they say thank you, encourage them to help someone else when they’re able.

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Animals love Reiki. They are very sensitive to energy, and will be curiously attracted to sudden shifts and concentration of energy.

Often when we engage in meditation at home, our animals can’t stay away. They slink in and lay down nearby and just relax for the duration contently. When we finish the session,  they go about their kitty and doggy business.

If we dare to close them out of the session, they will whine and scratch at the door until we include them, and since they don’t disturb or interact with us during sessions, we just find it easier to include them.

When we are ill or injured, our animals give us healing too, as they are natural conduits.  Have you noticed your dog or cat will come to comfort you when you’re upset or depressed? They want to help you in order to restore energetic harmony in the home. 

And animals appreciate being given Reiki too.  It soothes them during times of stress, trauma, or illness. And sometimes, they just need a little body boost, just like we do!

Reiki is for everyone!

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How much time do you spend each day dreaming of a different or better life for you and your family? Have you taken any steps in the general direction of your dreams? While day dreaming is an important aspect of changing your life, the most important component to changing your life is action. 

How often do you leave your own comfort zone? If you’re like most people, your closest resemblance is in your daydreams. You think about leaving your comfort zones with “if only I had this circumstance, I could do the unrealistic thing”. But the truth is, if you never take that step out of that which keeps you safe and secure, you will never explore your potential capabilities, and your life will not change.

It’s not enough to leave your comfort zone once and then assume that’s all you’ll ever have to do. In order to reveal our unseen selves and find our true path, we must leave our comfort zones, not just once, but often. The more you explore, the more you understand about yourself.  The more you understand, the more opportunities you find available to you. Each opportunity is a choice you can make to create the life what you want. 

Each time you leave your comfort zone to try a new thing or do something you’ve avoided for a long time, you are facing fear down with courage.  It is the best possible way to find confidence in yourself.  Fear is what is keeping you from living your life to the fullest. 

Your dreams of a better life are merely an intention you are setting for “someday”. You must follow the intention with an action as the catalyst to make that mere daydream a possibility, and eventually, a reality.

Action steps can be big or small, long term and short term, and they all work together to build a foundation that makes any goal you wish to achieve completely reachable.  Fear is natural.  It’s how you let it motivate you that is important.  If you take a step and stumble immediately, consider a set of smaller steps to bring the forward opportunity for much larger steps in the future. 

Timing is also a factor. When you see an opportunity, take it! If you don’t benefit from the action, that’s okay.  What is important is that you took action.  And every time you take action is a chance to be successful.  The key is to accept disappointment and invest in loss.  What you will learn from any failure will propel you forward to the next opportunity, and reveal another layer of awareness and understanding. 

Never give up on yourself, no matter what.  Wants and needs and daydreams, those can be transitory as life circumstances change your view of the world and your role in it. But your potential, your imagination, your life spark,  all of that is unique to you. With confidence,  you can achieve more than you dream, you can make the reality you’ve always wanted by leaving your comfort zone, not once, but often.

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Is happiness a state of being, or is it a moment we perceive which inspires intense feelings we can retain and revisit? Are the moments of happiness we perceive more an indication of inspired joy from external sources, and unrelated to a happiness state of being? I believe the latter.

From my experience, joy is something we experience in small bursts.  The intensity of the feeling depends ultimately on many factors, but when we are in a happiness state of being,  we appreciate joy filled moments more. We recognize them more often.

However, true happiness is not inspired, but cultivated by choice from within.  Choosing happiness makes experiencing joy more possible.  Living in a happiness state of being enriches our shared experiences, because an open heart is quick to share with others the best parts of ourselves.

Joy and happiness are not mutually exclusive,  they compliment each other and encourage us to be kind to each other and share in peace.

How would you like to express your happiness or spread joy today?

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Animals possess the same 7 chakras as we humans do, and they can become out of balance just like us. Reiki is one way that we can help our furry and feathered companions when they need us most.  

Physical changes to their bodies and environment can be very stressful for some animals, and mental trauma from sudden events, health issues, and abuse or neglect are also contributing factors to an animal’s lack of internal balance.

In my practice, I’ve performed Reiki for both healthy and convalescent dogs and cats for a variety of conditions from anxiety to pain and chronic conditions. Most recently, I had the pleasure of meeting a visiting senior cat at Peanut’s Green Acres, a domestic animal sanctuary.  Founder, Michelle Murphy, and I have been friends for many years, and has heard me talking on a number of occasions about animals and their Chakra systems, and about Reiki in general.  So when she became the temporary caretaker for a senior cat recovering from medical problems,  she thought my services might prove beneficial.

This senior kitty had had surgeries and problems with her hips and back legs. Though she can stand, she isn’t able to balance very well, and spends a lot of time lying on one side or the other due to pain and weakness.  She appeared very cooperative, and did not resist being picked up, other than a little bit of old lady grumble.

Before the Reiki was administered, she seemed lethargic and was visibly suffering from stiffness and pain. I knew she would probably be very sensitive to touch on her back end, so I started by directing the Reiki energy to her root Chakra from her legs up first, instead of starting from the head, without touch, and it really helped right away.  She began to relax her body language within a few seconds, her eyes brightened, and the purring started and didn’t stop for the duration of the visit.

Once I got to her head, I began incorporating light touch on my way back down through the 7 chakras, which was well received. At the end, I thanked the old girl for letting me help and set her back down in her bed,  happily purring and flipping her tail contently, where she curled back up to relax.

The feedback from Michelle was great, so when she asked me to come back a few weeks later to do it again, I was more than happy to comply.  This venerable little kitty actually seemed happy to see me again, purring right away and lightly flipping her tail. I was glad to see her doing better.  She seemed less grouchy and less stiff.

When we finished the second session, I could really see difference in the effect of the Reiki after the treatment the time before compared with this time. I set her down in her bed,  and instead of curling up to sleep, she walked around the room a bit and settled on the play station her caretaker had made for her (you can see more about that creation, and the organization here).

This is but one example of how animals can benefit from receiving Reiki.  If you’d like to know more about how your pets might benefit, feel free to contact me at jlombardi@spiritlifewellness.com. you can also ask questions in the comments.

Have a great day!

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With each moon cycle, I redo my Reiki Healing Crystal Grid.  I also do my best to remember to charge it again each morning to support the intentions included for that moon cycle. With the full moon approaching, I thought I’d share my process, and invite others to  try it.

As you can see from the photo, I have used a large cloth with a Karuna Reiki symbol already on it and I use some of the smaller stones I have collected over the years as the power centers. However, you can find many examples of variations of Reiki grids by doing a google search for it, and most everyone can find a style that they resonate with.  And if not, one can make their own.

On to the process! I start a new cycle by removing the stones and soaking them in salt water for a few hours, then dry them and let them charge in the sun,  either outside or in a sunny window (in a room away from the cats). This allows them to be free of energy associated with the previous cycle.

Next, I take a lint roller to the cloth to make sure is as clean as possible. I use a technique called “cutting cords” to detach any residual energy from the grid. I also take this time to review the previous requests and set aside those that are on-going requests, and discard those that are not.

As soon as I have the new requests, I write then on small pieces of paper and slide then under the grid.  Then, I take the charged stones and place them at the points you see in the photo. They are not always put back in the same place, but I think that is okay. I let the energies guide me on that, it seems to work out fine, and I believe it’s because I start from scratch each moon cycle.

On the full moon, I focus my intentions on the grid to remove obstacles that are preventing healing or other requested items for help from manifesting. On the new moon, I briefly review all of the requests and set the intention for manifestation or forward movement. At the beginning of the next cycle, I repeat the process overt again. I also make it a part of my daily routine to do a brief recharge each day.

Because I want to help as many people as possible, I invite any and all of you to send me an email or leave in a comment, your personal request for help. I will stop taking requests for this moon cycle on Friday November 7th.

Don’t be shy, no request is to big or too small.  And while I will not guarantee results, I can promise that it won’t hurt or hinder anything, and that most people do report that they did see positive results when asked for feedback.

Have a great day!

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This is another of our most popular posts from Facebook. Enjoy! 

The topic of forgiveness keeps coming up recently in conversations with friends and clients alike. Well, lets talk about it.

Forgiveness is not about the person or situation one forgives. It is about freeing the forgiver from the negative emotional attachment to the person or situation bring forgiven.

Forgiveness is not about forgetting what happened between you. Forgiveness is closing an ugly chapter of your history and moving on, together or apart.

Forgiveness is not for releasing the other person of the responsibility for their role in hurting you. Forgiveness is for releasing the hurt you felt responsible for experiencing, and nothing more.

Forgiveness doesn’t guarantee an accepted apology. Forgives removes the need to hear one in the first place, because their validation of your feelings is no longer necessary.

Forgiveness doesn’t let the guilty off the hook. Far from it. If the offending party feels guilt, your forgiveness won’t change anything for them. They will still feel guilty until they forgive themselves for their transgression. Forgiveness lets you walk away without dragging their guilt with you.

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This week I’ll be putting some of my favorite posts from my Facebook page in an effort to share some really great stuff with you all that you may have missed. I hope you enjoy them all. This week one was from Manifestation Week,  Day 5!  Thank you for joining me on the journey this week. 

Today, let’s remember that manifestation IS life.  We manifest all that we experience. I realize this is a controversial and potentially unpopular position, but I do believe it’s true.  We manifest our worst fears without hesitation or recognition.  So I see no reason why we can’t manifest our wildest dreams and everything in between. 

Our thoughts have power, and so do our words.  Remember that as you go about your day.  Are you using powerful words and phrases in your everyday speech? Are you talking a lot about the negative things in your life?

Manifestation through proper intent is the key to making your life what you want it to be.  All of the hard work is 90% conscious internal direction.  You can do it.  I believe in you.